In Defense of Separate Bedrooms


My boyfriend and I have separate bedrooms.

We started hunting for our first apartment together during the summer of 2012. We specifically searched for an apartment with two bedrooms. We’d been dating for a year and a half before that, so we knew what our sleep schedules are like and that they wouldn’t mesh well. I like to go to bed early in a quiet, dark room and I snore. Colby stays up late and has to sleep with the TV on. He has his video games in his room, I have a huge desk for my computer, printer and sewing machine. My space is mine and his is his. We found a place and moved in together in September.

Have I mentioned that as of February 16, 2014, we’ve never had a fight?

When I tell people I don’t share a bedroom with my boyfriend, I get a look comparable to this one:


According to a 2005 survey done by the National Sleep Foundation, 25% of American couples sleep separately. Recent studies in England and Japan have found similar results.

In fact, home-builders expect an increase in the addition of “dual master bedrooms” by next year because more and more couples are opting for their own separate sleeping space.

More and more couples who desire a better night’s sleep are not just sharing a bed with their partner because it is the expected social norm: they are taking their sleep into their own hands, and into their own bedrooms.

When we both emerge from our separate bedrooms at 7 a.m. to get ready for work, we’re happy to see one another. And that’s a great way to start a day.

One Reply to “In Defense of Separate Bedrooms”

  1. I think about this sometimes, Love the GIF , love the Jill !

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